How to Survive High School: How to Be a Badass

Hello people of the internet! How are you doing? I am doing quite well. I’ve mentioned before, that the last two months have been really hard on me because of break-ups, moving on, and panic attacks for unknown reasons every week. I was not in the best place. Although I feel much better now, but for awhile I felt very stuck. It was like no matter how tired I would never be consistently happy. I needed a change and I knew it. I think the thing that helped me the most from escaping that dark void of anxiety and constant panic attacks was taking time for myself. I was so caught up, and I never had time for myself, and I am happy, and even in the face of adversity and stress I managed to handle it like a badass, and that’s what I’m here to help you with.

I have mentioned the term of badass in previous posts before. I have given that term a certain amount of power in my mind. When I hear that word I think of some really amazing person. Someone who has amazing stories and adventures, they don’t take no for an answer, and they most certainly don’t take any shit. And their confidence follows them anywhere, and everywhere they go. That’s the person I try to be, and I know for a fact I am the best version of myself when I am confident, and being a badass helps me conquer the world. So here’s my tips to you

 

How to Survive High School: How to be a Badass

 

1.Cut the negative out of your life- You are who you hang out around. I speak from experience by saying it may be hard, but if you are consistently around bad people or people that put you down in high school you will never get up to your full potential.

  1. Believe you are- I’ll do a post on the law of attraction, but if you believe you are a confident badass then you are. Even if you’re getting anxious even if kids are giving you crap just be yourself. Believe that yourself is the most badass person out there. Because you are.
  2. Don’t be insecure- You are blessed. I mean, you’re able to read this, your life must not be all that bad. Don’t be insecure about your life, or any part of your body. I tend to be insecure about my acne, but then I remind myself I’m beautiful. I rock my acne. That’s what badass people do they own their insecurities, and when they do they bring that sort of presence that makes you want to be around them.
  3. Don’t give a crap about the other people- When you’re a badass you’re above anybody else’s idiotic comments, because you are secure in yourself, and you should be.
  4. Fake it till you make it- I was always told this by my band director. You may not completely feel confident, but if you fake it, you will eventually make it. That’s why they say if you’re sad you should smile because even though you’re faking the smile it releases endorphins that make you happy, it’s basically the same thing with your confidence. It gets hard sometimes in the face of adversity, but it helps you feel like you can stand on your own two feet.

 

It’s not just about faking confidence to not get crap from either, it’s about accepting and loving yourself, and not caring about what others think because you are yourself, and that’s all that matters. That sounds like a great way to go through life to me.

So I hope you guys remember to love yourself, and take time for yourself. Hustle hard, and go out every day and be a badass.

 

-Issie

 

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My Life Monday #14

How to Survive High School: Relationships (pt. 1 dating)

Hello people of the internet, it’s Issie. Continuing the series of How to Survive High School here’s another post all about relationships and for this post I’m talking about the dating side of relationships rather than friendships. So let’s jump in.

I’ve made a list of things to talk about so hopefully all my talking points make sense.

When you have a crush and you’re flirting with your crush before you jump into a relationship think about what you want from this relationship, and where you want it to go. My boyfriend asked me out today one month ago (9/22/17). I as I mentioned in a post before I have a fear of any sort of relationships but when we were flirting I thought about the relationship I wanted to have. I thought about where I wanted the relationship to go. When you can visualize the relationship, and you visualize it going well you attract the vibes you put out. Personally when I date I date thinking about the long run , marriage, as crazy as that sounds as a teen saying that to you. But it’s true, and that is the idea of dating to get to know and make connections with the person you like so you can eventually make a permanent commitment to each other, and I think that’s what people forget. That’s why it’s so important to know what you want even before you get into a relationship.

Going along with before the relationship, you need to trust your gut, and your friends about the person, just because you like them and you like the idea of the relationship doesn’t mean you have to compromise yourself. You also have to be able to read the signs when flirting, if the dude sounds like he just wants to get into your pants while texting and flirting and you want a long term relationships, don’t get into it. You have to be smart. Do what’s best for you.

When you finally get to the place where you’re dating this person, it;s important that you don’t replace your best friends. I have seen so many people do this before your best friends were there for you long before you found this guy who you think is the love of your life. In fact you’ll need them because one thing you should definitely remember is when you’re in high school everyone makes your relationship everyone’s business. I’ve seen people spread rumors, people jump to conclusions, and they just make it their business and it’s definitely to have friends by your side for that.

Next thing that I felt I should put in, don’t cheat. That’s just wrong.

As I mentioned before on the knowing what you want out of the relationship before you get into it, you have to define the relationship with the other person. It’s important to set a Godly example. And to tell you what you do or do not want to do, where you want to take this relationship, what’s your end goat (usually mariage) but you have to let them know.

And probably my best and most important piece of advice is before you love someone else you have to love yourself. Ed Sheeran said it best.

So yeah that’s all I got and just things I think that are important values if you want a long, strong, and healthy relationship.

Remember, good vibes=good life, talk to you on Wednesday.

-Issie

Photography Friday #6

Hilmar Homecoming 2017:

I live in a great little small town, and nothing makes me feel more like a community than homecoming. We get have a rally, we get out at noon, we have a parade, and an epic game.

This years theme was agriculture. Which fits our community so well because Hilmar runs on Ag. I didn’t take part in making my classes’s sophomore float, but we did win second out of all four classes.

Homecoming started the day before. I had revived my class t-shirt, and decided to crop and bleach it. And mad the more than necessary trip to Dollar General.

What I bought/homecoming necessities:

-White acrylic paint

-Three rolls of yellow pre wrap

-Gold acrylic paint pen

-Stick on gems

(I was mainly in the craft section…)

I was all ready for homecoming. That morning when I got to school, I painted all of my friends.

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Every class drug on. But in the band room, I had a line of people that came because they wanted me to paint their face.

I was so happy when the bell rang. I changed into my Cross Country shirt and rushed to find my team amongst the chaos. We walked over to the house of our team captain, grabbed a slice of pizza, then walked over to where the parade was starting. It was a great time walking with the No EXCuses banner down Landar. I saw everyone I knew and threw out candy. It’s just a nice thing to feel present and to experience it. Then I hung out in the band room until my mom picked me up. I went back home, then back to the school.

Hillmar v. Livingston. It was going to be on TV, and I was going to see my Livingston friend after a year, and win money because he was going to lose the bet we had placed on the winning team.

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Livingston lost to the JV team with a shutout. I got $10 and a picture.

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I spent most of the game with my boyfriend and his friends in the spirit booth, it was so much fun we watched the game, and messed around. But the best part was looking up at a full harvest moon, watching the floats pass with the band and my boyfriend. Just being present in that moment that made me completely happy surrounded by the people that lift me up.

Present, and happy in the moment, that was my fall homecoming 2017.

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My Life Monday #12

How to Survive High School: Confidence

Hello people of the internet, welcome back to my page. I hope you’re doing okay. Today we’re talking about a key quality in the process of surviving high school, confidence. Confidence is key even if you don’t have it.

Confidence (according to wikipedia):

1. the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust.

2. the state of feeling certain about the truth of something.

3. a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.

Normally when we think of confidence we think of the third definition, but it’s really a bit of everything when you think about it. Confidence is about being secure in yourself, and being able to trust, appreciate, and love yourself. Of course it’s much easier to have confidence in yourself when you know yourself, but let’s be honest if you’re in high school you’re trying to figure out who you are along with how to do more than order Taco Bell in Spanish… I hate Spanish.

Confidence isn’t about even being cool, it’s about being yourself and not giving a crap about what others think. That can be so hard, but you also got to remember although this feeling and state of mind is completely internal, it helps to have good people around you, that lift you up.

To have confidence:

-You need to love and appreciate yourself:

Don’t try to be like everyone else you have to be yourself and truly know that, that’s cool

-Surround yourself with people:

Not just any people, people that, love, appreciate, accept you, and lift you up

-You need to believe in yourself:

As the definitions stated confidence is also having firm belief in something. You need to believe in yourself when doing anything don’t make stupid doubting jokes, believe in yourself.

Confidence isn’t like magic, it takes time, but the most important thing to remember is what my band teacher always tells us “Fake it until you make it” same thing with confidence, and it will come.

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-Issie

 

Music Monday #5

How to survive high school: Playlists

I don’t know about anyone else but I really don’t survive without music. During the summer I spend a lot of time by myself, but when school starts I am constantly surrounded by people. Music is how I push myself, how I wake up in the morning, how I keep myself up at night trying to finish the last bit of homework for tomorrow. So this playlists to survive high school.

When I wake up in the morning I listen to some good old rock. Like some classic rock, punk rock, and pop rock, to get the blood pumping, and to start off my morning.

I actually don’t have very bad time management, but if you needed to fom waking up with rock, you can then make your own playlists with a list of songs that add up to the amount of time you need to get ready.

Once school actually starts, in all honesty I’m still not awake. But that’s when the variety of genres comes into play. By the time I’m in school I start listening to more of a pop playlist. It normally boosts my mood more (well needed because school sucks.)

I am talking Algebra 2 this year, and normally I’m good at math but I’m having to focus a lot more to make sure I understand what the teacher is saying, and for that I use indie music. The indie music opens my mind, and keeps me in focus. Soft classical music like Mozart can also be good.

But when it comes to English or Honors History, you’re doing a lot of writing, and to get the creative juices going, or just to help me on the information, I listen to Beethoven. Beethoven has a very violent tone when playing, unlike Mozart, Beethoven plays with passion.

As you guys also know, I’m on the cross country team, so I normally listen to pop music or rock pop when I run. Like Hey Violet, a lot of All Time Low, and the stuff that’s on the radio.

After a long hard day, I still have Algebra 2, and Spanish homework. By now it’s about 7:30. It’s killer to have to to homework that late honestly. So for that I go back to my rock music, and I take breaks in between every page of homework, (and playing a little electric guitar because guitar homework is the most important homework, duh).

Finally, when I wash my face and brush my teeth listening to my indie tunes. To be honest I really don’t know many indie artists, but I really do like indie music, it’s closer to poetry set to music. SO I listen to it, and get those peaceful vibes, then I wake up and do it all over again.

Spotify: ispat100

Rock Playlist: I was born in the wrong generation

Pop Playlist: Pump up pop

Indie: Crisp leaves and lattes

Mozart and Beethoven artist playlists

If you enjoyed this, like, comment, and subscribe, and comment bellow if you wat to see some poetry that I wrote for kicks on Friday. Idk.

Catch ya on the flip side, good vibes=good life.

-Issie